Infidelity demarcation
How do you define infidelity? or at what stage you'll consider your spouse action is infidelity and unacceptable?I was a strict follower. I never believe in there is pure friendship between opposite sex, not to mention maintaining one after married. Likewise, I am expecting my spouse to think the same.
However, some people may think otherwise. However again, if between the couple, they have established a mutual trust and proper communication, I think that is fine.
Saying that, my hubby used to receive sms from female friends. And I know of a particular
Definately I not magnanimous, so I confronted the hubby. And guess what the hubby say?
"c'mon lah, dont make me ma lu, she sms to everybody, there isnt any agenda, you want me to go and tell her off not to include me in her list? People will think that you are petty!"
... ... ... He called me petty?!!! My heart was so hurt then...
Years passed, thought now I dont see those sms already...
But I am still sceptical as
- his monthly phone bill reflected his outgoing sms= 900 nos... and the no. of times he sms me is probably less than 10 in a month. So where are those 890 sms sent to?
- and then the less than 10 sms I received from hubby, sometimes also have those loving circulation sms... he may thought that I will find those sweet but I was thinking where on earth he received such sms from? Definately not a guy friend. He is damn careless enough! -_-
Anyway, I find it no point to persue the matter... we will ended up quarrel and he will accuse me 没事找事吵. Though refuse to comply but I just have to widen my range of acceptance.
The one night the hubby was sending me to attend a friend's wedding function. On the way, hubby's phone rang, caller ID reflected an unfamiliar number. Hubby connected the line handfree and answered in a stern voice...
hubby: " HELLO !"
a
hubby: " Who's that?"
silent...
the voice: " B squared... " (some sort of passwords? I raised my brow.)
hubby: " Huh?!! Who? "
silent...
the voice : " xxx lah..."
hubby: " Yah! What's Up? "
silent...
the voice: " You on the road isit? "
silent...
silent...
then hang up.
the hubby: " Who's that hah?"
me: "
the hubby: " She called up for what lah?"
Me?
Most probably as years passed, my accumlated rancour has somehow turn still. Sometimes I was thinking why do I always have to be so concern will he turn unfaithful to me while I think he never worried about me will. So what if he really has an extra affair ? I will pitty the
For a moment I thought I was so 潇洒... then I realise my heart was so sour and the eyes rim were watery...
Anyway... yes, simply from that I dont jump conclusion but definately I will guard up. I'll make sure the 狗男女 die very UGLY!!!
Eh... but how ah? How to make them die ugly hah? Anyone? Please help contribute idea.
Kekeke... ; )
Labels: relationship
posted by wtpgRR at 11/14/2006 07:14:00 PM
6 Comments:
The worst thing is that I dont know why there is simply ladies out there who cannot keep their hands off the married man....
They can be doing it liberately beacuse they know that there is no strings attached, there is no need for them to be held responsible for the kind of things they say or do. They feel proud that they can twist a married guy in their fingers and prove that they are so much better than the wives. Maybe to them, it feels like winning a war.
Eeks just get so irriated by these ladies....sluts...
Winnie
Hi, I hope I am not intruding...I popped by thru' Ivy's blog.
I guess it'll be better if bot of you can sit down and have a good talk. I used to check my hubby's mobile (even now)...I will ask same qns like urs too.
It is not usual if the sms-es or phone bill starts to mountain up...
I do hope everything is fine tho :)
Many many ways to make them die UGLY UGLY!!! Target his car, cos that once maciam like his life right? Then for the woman, find out where she live and work then go kajiao her...HIAKHIAKHIAK!!!
But seriously, do you want to establish the truth? Are you ready for the truth? What do you plan to do if you find out things you don't want to know.
Personally, my feel is that your hubs is just a friendly man. Too friendly and he don't make exceptions to some of these undesirable slutty women. Becos my hubs was once like that some years ago.
But my stand is like yours. I don't allow my man to make friends with women without my knowledge.
There was also once a woman who also kept sending over friendly sms to my hubs. And funny thing she also call herself BB (same person???) You know what I did? I track her down, threaten her and scare the wits out of her. Me is fierce and I don't give chance.
I think sometimes as couples, it is better to open up and put a firm stand on certain issues. No point being nice nice all the time.
Of course, different couples have different styles, but the fact remains that by keeping quiet, someone will end up being totally unhappy.
Hope you don't mind my two cents worth on the topic.
aiyo....you sounded like you are very sure that he is having an affair now, maybe he isn't leh? Althougt missing you and thinking about you are certainly NOT NORMAL and casual sms from a platonic fren lor.....
but better you sit down with him and talk things over calmly.....don't jump to any concluson before taking to him.
hmmm sounds like a sticky situation is cooking up. One of the most important element in a marriage is possibly trust.
hmmmmm I never check my hubby's sms nor his bill. I don't see a need to. To me if the man's heart is not with me, I'll just let him go. Why get ourselves all miserable?
Hope things will ultimately be alright for you.
Winnie, most probably is ethic.
Fannie, dont worry, I dont find you any offending. In fact, thanks for your concerns :)
Hello SS, I ask for idea, you give me something worth 2 cents ONLY! So 吝啬!
Jan, Thanks :)
Ivy, I dont uses to check on him too... but maybe is once bitten twice shy...
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