What's your reaction?
What happen is...
Last Friday, Clarabelle was down with a high fever. I applied urgent pm leave thought there shdnt be any big deal furthermore mum & maid were around but luckily I did. When I reached home, poor clarabelle was very cranky. She must be very miserable running a fever at 40.2 deg c! I quickly shot the "bullet" into her anus and effectively the temp went down, albeit gradually.
I am glad I did not procastinate to take the pm leave. Though she may be just "yang or" but I am most willingly to pacify her. I am glad I was at her side when she needed me most though me, myself was down too, down with the stupid pre-menses pain, my head was like going to split into half! Whenever I get up from sitting position or the slighest movement of my head is so painful!
And that night after work, the daddy still had a wedding function to attend. I am already mentally prepared that I will have to stretch myself abit longer till 12am when the daddy will be home. Though clara wasnt any cranky and was in deep asleep already but is just me, a tire soul waiting for the partner to be home to soothe down my day. But when the clock struck 12.00am and still no sign of the partner...
Sense my blood bar going up... buzz the man and when connected was a noisy background and I heard called you again...
awhile later, that man called and I asked :" Where are you? Dinner haven end? "
that man : " Oh! Ended but I join KA & friends who are at the near by pub! "
me internally exploded :" So, what time you're coming home? "
that man :" Soon..."
me : " What time is your soon? "
that man : " I still have half mug to fin..." then talking to background oh the haze is making me puke...
me: " Ooi ! are you ok or not! You sound drank already!" then, I am ok, i know my limit... " You might as well sleep there! " Fed up! Slam the phone!
Me fed up because,
1stly, the girl is sick, he know I must have a busy day and sure had worn out but still didnt come home early.
2ndly, he overdosed drinking, thought I shd doubth him but I never like him always stretch his limit and always taking the risk! I think the fundamental for a responsible parent is must always take care of themself so that they are able to take care of their children and they will never take such risk!
3rdly...ok, I think down to the root is, I am unhappy becos he's not apologetic.
Finally here is the question...
What's your reaction when that is your partner? What will you do when your partner comes home?
Ok, I must point out that, the daddy brought Clara to see doctor and he did drop home tochange his attire cos his friend commented his black attire dont suit the happy occassion see how's everything and bought me a nice fruit juice...
Me? I used to blow up, no matter how late the night is but now... as long as he is safe home, furthermore this is an old issue. I have spoken to him many times but he's just dont budge. Very dishearted to talk to rotten log.
But instead, I insisted him to gime a massage. The minimum to soothe my anger. Yes, he did, but after a few knead, the pressure began to lessen and very soon, die!
me :" See!Compromised massage!"
sub-sober log :" My head is spinning..."
me :" I didnt cause your head spinning! "
and guess what the log comment ??! He asked: " Why dont u massage me?!"
me fuming : " Ok! " gave him a knead on both his temple and " Done! "
Last Friday, Clarabelle was down with a high fever. I applied urgent pm leave thought there shdnt be any big deal furthermore mum & maid were around but luckily I did. When I reached home, poor clarabelle was very cranky. She must be very miserable running a fever at 40.2 deg c! I quickly shot the "bullet" into her anus and effectively the temp went down, albeit gradually.
I am glad I did not procastinate to take the pm leave. Though she may be just "yang or" but I am most willingly to pacify her. I am glad I was at her side when she needed me most though me, myself was down too, down with the stupid pre-menses pain, my head was like going to split into half! Whenever I get up from sitting position or the slighest movement of my head is so painful!
And that night after work, the daddy still had a wedding function to attend. I am already mentally prepared that I will have to stretch myself abit longer till 12am when the daddy will be home. Though clara wasnt any cranky and was in deep asleep already but is just me, a tire soul waiting for the partner to be home to soothe down my day. But when the clock struck 12.00am and still no sign of the partner...
Sense my blood bar going up... buzz the man and when connected was a noisy background and I heard called you again...
awhile later, that man called and I asked :" Where are you? Dinner haven end? "
that man : " Oh! Ended but I join KA & friends who are at the near by pub! "
me internally exploded :" So, what time you're coming home? "
that man :" Soon..."
me : " What time is your soon? "
that man : " I still have half mug to fin..." then talking to background oh the haze is making me puke...
me: " Ooi ! are you ok or not! You sound drank already!" then, I am ok, i know my limit... " You might as well sleep there! " Fed up! Slam the phone!
Me fed up because,
1stly, the girl is sick, he know I must have a busy day and sure had worn out but still didnt come home early.
2ndly, he overdosed drinking, thought I shd doubth him but I never like him always stretch his limit and always taking the risk! I think the fundamental for a responsible parent is must always take care of themself so that they are able to take care of their children and they will never take such risk!
3rdly...ok, I think down to the root is, I am unhappy becos he's not apologetic.
Finally here is the question...
What's your reaction when that is your partner? What will you do when your partner comes home?
Ok, I must point out that, the daddy brought Clara to see doctor and he did drop home to
Me? I used to blow up, no matter how late the night is but now... as long as he is safe home, furthermore this is an old issue. I have spoken to him many times but he's just dont budge. Very dishearted to talk to rotten log.
But instead, I insisted him to gime a massage. The minimum to soothe my anger. Yes, he did, but after a few knead, the pressure began to lessen and very soon, die!
me :" See!Compromised massage!"
sub-sober log :" My head is spinning..."
me :" I didnt cause your head spinning! "
and guess what the log comment ??! He asked: " Why dont u massage me?!"
me fuming : " Ok! " gave him a knead on both his temple and " Done! "
Labels: relationship, wtpg
posted by wtpgRR at 10/09/2006 01:04:00 PM
6 Comments:
This sounds quite familiar but my man won't do this if our son is ill. He's quite concern about the boy. And if I'm angry like you, most probably I'll just turn around and ignore him. Won't even talk to him until he apologise. Massage ah...hmpf...my foot!
I can understand how you feel, the kid's sick, you are feeling sick and tired too but HE leh, still have to attend a wedding dinner (is it really so important???) think if it was the other way around, we would have sent apologies to the wedding and came home straight after work to help....but that's not how the man will think, they will say, already promoised people liao...fine, if already promoised liao then go but at least have the decency to come back right after it ends.....sorry,I sounded really upset cos it is really upsetting.....kekeek
SS, now you see my problems with that man??! He never apologise cos he never feel guilty! ME only "kay tiao", what else can I do?
I used to ignore him then he still can give remark, saying Im petty!
*bang head* still got the cheek to demand me to massage him right?!!!
Jan, EXACTLY! Im not asking him not to attend the dinner but at least come home straight and not detour to another rounds! *sign* What I can say is he didnt "grown up" still very insensible!
I think yours and mine hor, each one of a kind. Sometimes I also bay tahan. You think got something to do with the age?
You mean our hubby age???
Actually, now I do think that the old saying does has it origin. I start to ponder on my mum saying, a elderly hubby will be more doting & caring toward his wifey. Whereas younger hubby mostly behave like a child, the wifey will suffer, have to care of them instead. Thought I dont denine it still depends on individual upbring but at least the possiblilty of a caring hubby shd be higher, i think.
Sometimes I'll mock myself, see "Ti-key"(stubborn) lah, now suffer... and I dont dare to take for granted what my mum say already.
Well, no point crying over spilt milk, we'll just have to get on with life and be happy, though is hard...but i just derive an formulae isnt it, always remember,
simple complex=complex simple :p
Now I am comptemplate to write a guidebook for my girls on how to choose a doting/loving/caring/responsible/sensible hubby!
Haha!
Actually, older or younger, all got pros and cons lah...an older man can try to be domineering and control the wife. Like they say, got 2 sides to a coin.
And haha...if I have a daughter I will probably do the same.
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