Discipline

This chain photo amused me alot. It was taken when I was administering discipline in them. Cant recalled since when their daily life style have been associating with hitting & pushing each other so that day I decided to introduce "time-out" on them. That is to stop their whatever activities and make them stand straight against the wall, no movement, no noise for 5 mins. The purpose is to inculcate them hitting people is an unacceptable behaviour, when they hit people, their fun time will be paused. I was very sceptical how this going to work on them....

Check out the two monkies. Piror to that I was explaining to them why mummy make them stood there and it's wrong to hit each other or people... mummy dislike children hitting blar blar blar... but my words doesnt seem to hit into their head and they were whinning hoping I would give in. But I decided to ignore them by pretending sleeping and had captured these photos...
(Photo starting left to right downward)
Photo 1 - they thought I had fallen asleep... feeling bored and start to self entertained... Abella was looking out for me, see if I have awake.
Photo 2 - balancing on one leg... Clarabelle looking toward my direction also.
Photo 3 - suspecting me awake, tamed down abit.
Photo 4 - thought coast cleared... start their monkey things again.
Photo 5,6 - feeling bored standing.
Photo 7 - see Clarabelle folded her arm, she is angry, she had learnt that from barney in the series about feeling, the children folded their arm when they are mad, rubbed the eyes when sad, smiled when happy...
Photo 8 - monkey things again.
Photo 9 - approached mummy hoping will grant mercy... why not 5 mins time up already.

My girls have come to the stage that need discipline and I think this is one of the toughest task in parenthood. I object physical punishment on children as it gives them the idea that violence is an acceptable way to solve problems. They might also feel that they have paid for their misbehaviour and are free to do it again. Though physical punishment can stop children misbehave instantly but is temporary only. They merely due to terrified of adult and fear of pain but not because they think it is wrong to do so. Physical punishment also make the children hate themself and others as they will think that there are something wrong with them. It will ruins their self-esteem and doesn't work anymore when they become a teenager.

So much so about discipline and what does it take for effective discipline? Yeah is the letter P-atience. Yes mummy does have some patience but still... girls dont stretch mummy limit.