Daddy vs Mummy
I hate this question, when people, especially those thought they can abuse their seniority, ask me : " Which girl you love most? The elder or younger? "
I think it's an mindless question as both are my girls, both I had conceived 36 weeks in my womb, both are my flesh...
anyway, I reply gently : " both are my love, they share the same weightage in my heart. "
but this people still dont buck, still insist... " no lah, I think you love the elder one... see, now you are bias, you gave the elder one but didnt give to the second one... ... ..."
I have no interest engaging in such groundless conversation, make myself scat... who's care you are senior... I already give you the respect you deserved!
My parents wont make such comparison. Though I am the youngest and only daughter in my family, above me I have 2 elder brothers. I always feel the equality in our parents' heart. My mum has always incalcate us to love, care and give in to one another. Dispite when young actually I find my eldest brother a bully but when grown up, we really care and love each other, no condition.
So, same here, I always tell my girls must love and give in to one other. I also dont ask my girls who they love most amongst us. I think this question not only put them in a difficult position but also confuse them about loving their love one. I think all our love one should stand an equal position in our heart. So, I always tell them mummy love Abe, mummy love Clara too. Daddy love Abe, Daddy love Clara too. Abe&Clara love mummy, Abe&Clara love daddy too... same apply to ma ma, gong gong and all the related.
( Eh... SS, pls dont feel that this is criticizing about your " love me... not " entry, I know you have not purpose... yours is just a casual talking. So dont think otherwise, k :p)
Though my girls are more bond to me, most probably I spend more time communicate with them as compare to their daddy. But luckily they are still affectionate with the daddy. In fact I am glad they are, at least will be the attaction for the daddy to stay at home often.
Anyway... then this 不自量力 daddy still wants to challenge me...
Last time, when he felt clarabelle resemblance him, so he likes clarabelle more and claimed that clarabelle responded to him more then to me and insisted us to take a test which I really dont wish to... ... ... embarrass him.
But he insisted... so, -_-
Test 1
He was carrying Clarabelle, so I opened up my arms and prompted clara to come over. Most willing, she leaned foward to my arms : )
Then was daddy's turn, he did the same, opened up his arm prompting clara back to his side, clara refused...
LOL!
Test 2 (Not intented)
We were preparing the bed to tuck the girls to sleep...
me: " Who wants to sleep with mummy? " and both girls came pushing to be slept beside me.
Then daddy: " Children dont squeeze, who wants to come over to daddy? " Nobody respond... Since Abella is nearer to me, I say " Clara, why dont you sleep with daddy? "
Clara: "No!"
Nowaday the daddy seem to like Abella more as he claim that Clara is very naughty but Abella is more loving and always look for him and ask about his whereabout.
Test 3 (Not intended)
When we came back from work together, the moment we enter the living rm, if still early, we can hear the girls came dashing out from the bedroom, they were screaming with joy when see both of us home. Then both of us open our arms to embrace them, both the girls squeeze into my arms and afterthat, of course, they went to embrace the daddy...
I think I dont want to spell it out and making comparison the love from our girls by the sequence of their approach but I really hope the daddy can realise the importance of bonding and make time to communicate and mind sharing with the girls. Not just bringing them out every weekend, it funtime though but not much of communication for bonding. He say he dont needs the bond, bond for what? Then cannot do other things! I dont know he say this is out of his chauvinism or he really think that way but seriously I can feel that I am gradually detaching from him since now we have less thoughts exchange... I am hoping the girls wont gradually feel the way I felt though it's inevitable.
I think it's an mindless question as both are my girls, both I had conceived 36 weeks in my womb, both are my flesh...
anyway, I reply gently : " both are my love, they share the same weightage in my heart. "
but this people still dont buck, still insist... " no lah, I think you love the elder one... see, now you are bias, you gave the elder one but didnt give to the second one... ... ..."
I have no interest engaging in such groundless conversation, make myself scat... who's care you are senior... I already give you the respect you deserved!
My parents wont make such comparison. Though I am the youngest and only daughter in my family, above me I have 2 elder brothers. I always feel the equality in our parents' heart. My mum has always incalcate us to love, care and give in to one another. Dispite when young actually I find my eldest brother a bully but when grown up, we really care and love each other, no condition.
So, same here, I always tell my girls must love and give in to one other. I also dont ask my girls who they love most amongst us. I think this question not only put them in a difficult position but also confuse them about loving their love one. I think all our love one should stand an equal position in our heart. So, I always tell them mummy love Abe, mummy love Clara too. Daddy love Abe, Daddy love Clara too. Abe&Clara love mummy, Abe&Clara love daddy too... same apply to ma ma, gong gong and all the related.
( Eh... SS, pls dont feel that this is criticizing about your " love me... not " entry, I know you have not purpose... yours is just a casual talking. So dont think otherwise, k :p)
Though my girls are more bond to me, most probably I spend more time communicate with them as compare to their daddy. But luckily they are still affectionate with the daddy. In fact I am glad they are, at least will be the attaction for the daddy to stay at home often.
Anyway... then this 不自量力 daddy still wants to challenge me...
Last time, when he felt clarabelle resemblance him, so he likes clarabelle more and claimed that clarabelle responded to him more then to me and insisted us to take a test which I really dont wish to... ... ... embarrass him.
But he insisted... so, -_-
Test 1
He was carrying Clarabelle, so I opened up my arms and prompted clara to come over. Most willing, she leaned foward to my arms : )
Then was daddy's turn, he did the same, opened up his arm prompting clara back to his side, clara refused...
LOL!
Test 2 (Not intented)
We were preparing the bed to tuck the girls to sleep...
me: " Who wants to sleep with mummy? " and both girls came pushing to be slept beside me.
Then daddy: " Children dont squeeze, who wants to come over to daddy? " Nobody respond... Since Abella is nearer to me, I say " Clara, why dont you sleep with daddy? "
Clara: "No!"
Nowaday the daddy seem to like Abella more as he claim that Clara is very naughty but Abella is more loving and always look for him and ask about his whereabout.
Test 3 (Not intended)
When we came back from work together, the moment we enter the living rm, if still early, we can hear the girls came dashing out from the bedroom, they were screaming with joy when see both of us home. Then both of us open our arms to embrace them, both the girls squeeze into my arms and afterthat, of course, they went to embrace the daddy...
I think I dont want to spell it out and making comparison the love from our girls by the sequence of their approach but I really hope the daddy can realise the importance of bonding and make time to communicate and mind sharing with the girls. Not just bringing them out every weekend, it funtime though but not much of communication for bonding. He say he dont needs the bond, bond for what? Then cannot do other things! I dont know he say this is out of his chauvinism or he really think that way but seriously I can feel that I am gradually detaching from him since now we have less thoughts exchange... I am hoping the girls wont gradually feel the way I felt though it's inevitable.
Labels: daddy, motherhood, wtpg
posted by wtpgRR at 9/01/2006 01:16:00 PM
4 Comments:
Haha...don't worry lah. Won't feel offended one. Everyone is different mah...
But why your elders keep asking you about who you love? Does it matter to them?
I think as parents, we try to be equal in our attention to our kids but then hor, sometimes preference do come in lah. I mean if one is very naughty and one is very well-behaved, then quite natural to prefer the latter right? :p
Anyway, I think kids prefer mummy mostly when they're younger. I mean even a recent survey in Asia has put mummies on top of the list while daddy rated poorly at C. This probably applies to daddies who are very hands-off.
Aiya... that's why there is song called, "世上只有妈妈好"... and the only daddy's song is.... "客人来,看爸爸. 爸爸不在家"... :lol:
err...people, i'm just joking ah... don't flame me! heheee
SS, Thks! you know what I trying to say, everyone is different :)
Seach me? My hubby was saying maybe they want to strike a conversation... but I think more for a commotion!
I agreed with you, the well-behave children are more welcome... I used to fond a cousin when she was a baby and always cuddle her but as she grow older, her behaviour irritate me and I have distance her then... sometimes I felt quite guilty about it.
But now when come to my own children... maybe none of them have triggle my anger yet... so I really still love both of them equally :p
CM, Hahaha! I like that! Thanks for pointing that out! LOL :p
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