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My usual nite of parental bonding moment with my girls prior to their sleep. Lying together on their bed, I sang them a lullaby.. It have been a while I did not sing to them.. they enjoyed the humming as much as they used to since young... then my little girl, Abella told me..

"Mommy you are the goo-dest.." shaking her petite thumb king up.
me: "huh? googles?"
abe: "No, is Good! Goodest!"
me broke into smile... " Are u saying Best?"
abe: "Yes! Bestest Mommy!"

kekeke... she is weak in her grammer but the thought of I am the No. 1 in her heart is so sweet & touching... she just insisted to add the -est in every words bestest describe me... :)

Sweet girl... btw they didnt forget their daddy too, the daddy has an -est too...

"daddy is the strongest..."

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!
to our strongest man...

(he is the only man in the family too.. :p)

5 a.m. news

jus called hubby to check y he's not home yet...

he was brought to police station for a thorough alcohol level check...

lucky he passed the test...

lucky was not a wake-up call from A&E...

can antisipate tomorrow later, the girls' music class, we will be late again...

reminded myself not to fuss over it later...

reminded myself, is not easy possible for him to be sensible...

30 April

Happy Birthday to you, Hubby!

Just collected this cake from The Patissier.
Pretty isnt it? Dont guess, it's very yummy too.
Cant wait till tonight the daddy cut the cake then we can savour it!

I find the big bow around the cake especially a charming trait, like a sweet little girl on a dainty little dress.

If you are out to get a cake, must try The Patissier.
You'll sure got hooked, like me! Heehee

Money . Honey

Have I ever mention how dear are my girls, saying that they will earn alots of money and give me alots of money next time when they grow up?

kekeke...Anyway, let me brag again.

There was once, Abella ask me to buy something. I had spent all my cash then though I also dont wish to cultivate them the habits of getting what they want easily, even their request are very small money.

So I simply told them that I had no money and reply them why, as I had bought this, this, this and that, that, that, so used up all my money.

But I never expect they will sympathize me and told me... " Mommy next time, Clarabelle & Abella grown up, will earn alots of money, then Clara & Abe give mommy alots of money, then mommy has alots of money, k?"

Such a dear right? but that has it side effect...

There was once, I told them that Im buying them something as an encouragement for being good. Then Abella say : " But mommy you have no money lei..."
me : " Er.. bcos daddy has give mommy money already." (was saying that infront of their daddy... hiak hiak hiak)

There was once again...
Clara: " Mommy why did you buy so many things? you got money already? Bcos daddy give you money already?"
me : " Yes..." (No harm letting them hv the impression their daddy is the main breadwinner... and associate mommy is poor... -_-")

But my indulgence didnt prolong...
One day Abe ask :" Mommy why u didnt earn alots of money? Can you earn alots of money? "

... ... ... -_-

the evil side of money , corrupt human of all ages

but still, I ask them :" If mommy will to earn alots of money, then mommy will has lesser time to accompany you already. Dont you want mommy accompany or want mommy to earn alots of money? "

Abe n clara: " I want mommy to earn alots of money and buy things for me... but I still want mommy accompany..."

Afterall children are still innocent. Cultivating proper values to children are very important. The words we said to them too... but the daddy mentality abit sway...

I remember an incident, the girls were asking for his accompany.
Clara : " Daddy, I want your accompany..."
Dad : " Daddy needs to work, If daddy accompany you everytime and dont work, then we have no money, and you cant have toys, food, clothes, take plane... "

Albeit I always remind him, how we treat them now, will reflect how they'll treat us when we are old.

Comforting from the hubby

Though my hubby is like an old a big baby, refuses to grow up.

I cannot deny that he is a rational person, who will point to me when my emotional get over my rational.

me: " Why our girls so steady huh? Dont seem to miss us when staying at Bernice's place? I remember when I first stay over-night at my grandmom's place with my two bros, we cried in the middle of the night and our uncle had no choice but to bring us home..."

hubb: " They started school much earlier than us. Their exposure is there, furthermore theirs are full-day childcare, they slept in school, so they can adapt places beside their home. They sure more independant than us at their age."


me: " Why our girls enjoy staying at Bernice's place huh? Our house also have many toys and we always have fun time... we brought them outing... "

hubb: " Kids are like that, easily over-whelmed by new things, new people."

At time, he can analyse better too...

me: " How come Bernice's mommy told what she observed about our girls are differently from my own observation. To me Abella is better at puzzle and make logic. She has more choice of colour when coloring. She is more observant. She's faster to identify object. However, what Bernice's mommy observed is opposite. Clarabelle seem better..."

hubb: " Clarabelle is not confidance infront of us but not with other people. Abella is more confidance with us but not comfortable with stranger."

He is really a pointer... set me thinking why Clarabelle is not confidance infront of us but actually can be so good infront of other. Have I actually intimidated her learning???

But consolation is, at least now we know both of them are in par... jus that one has a lower self-esteem infront of us, another, infront of stranger.

Happy Father Day! Though...

This was belated, cos I was angry wif the daddy then...

The art & craft were from the girls and the pink checked shirt was from mommy, yes me, 好心没好报!

Here explain why I have gradually learn to put him my last priority, though I know I shouldnt...

Two weeks ago sunday was Father's day. On that week wednesday, after work, I rushed to shop for the guys' present since everytime he pick me up was @ 7.30pm, so I tot want to optimise this waiting 1+hr to shop and he can picked me up at my shopping place instead.

But even having in mind what to get... shirt or belt for my brother's birthday (his bday nxt day), wallet for my dad and shirt for him & his dad but 1+hr to shop for 4 gifts was still such a challenge! I had made him waited 40mins for me and he had to detour around the building many times as the security dont allowed waiting.

I know, Im sorry, I can understand the stress level he was going thru then, the children in the car needed to answer nature call, the security was bugging and I was still shopping... but I just cannot control feeling hurted, the moment I hopped into his car, his machine gun *tatatatatatata*

I told him :" Im sorry... " and kept quite throughout the journey... and didnt talk to him for a few days unless essential... Not that Im angry with him but really, I had nothing to say to him... I quietly stuffed his gift in a hidden corner... though I still bought a nice durian cake on that sunday to cut but Im afraid this gift have to rest in the corner for awhile more... at least till my heart is heal or someday I "ki siao" (suddenly happy mood) then pass it to him... :)

Love me

Last night after dinner at mum's place, as usual the girls were tire, refuse to walk on their own and want to be carried. On the way home, I was struggling with the "barang barang" and Clarabelle while the handfree daddy helding Abella had walked far but turned back, saw me struggling, offered "Aiyah... let me carry these things..." then explained to the girls " See, daddy love mummy, so daddy carry things for mummy. Next time both of you must carry for daddy mummy also..."

On another side, I was making face then Clarabelle asked, " Mummy why? "

Oops... :p "Eh... on lar... mummy is tire, do u want to come down and walk on your own? " Clarabelle protested "No..."

This is how my hubby love me... but what's when after dinner, I was hoping to quickly help my mum to clear the dinner table, mop the floor as full of rice n veggie stained and cut some fruits but the girls were cranky and very sticky refusing me to do other things but accompany them poo poo, she she, wash hand and pestering want to be carried, want to go home sleep...

Where is the daddy? No where but busying with the xbox!!!

I was very stressed up as was hoping to help mum finished chores quickly (though mum always ask me to leave it to her) so can go home earlier, then the children can sleep earlier, wont be cranky the next day and I still have to do some essential chores, prepare the children next day bag , if finish earlier, I can sleep earlier too... ... ... everythings have to race with time!

Alright, I can understand he had a tire n busy day, need to chill down but who dont? My mum dont? I dont?

Then after accompany us home, he will leave us again to "so-call" park the car, then chat with friends and puffing...

Alright, I can understand he needs to catch up with friends but who dont? I dont?

I wont want to continue ranting as at time, he does take care of the children & do the house chores and miscellanous , I appreciate very much...

But what I deep felt inside, what is love?
Sweetness in the heart... smile in the eyes... revitalizing voice... snuggle hug...

Oh... I longed to fall in love again...

你等着瞧

Last night the extravagant hubby came and told me...
" Eh dear, Can let me try your pant? My working pants are too slobbish already..."

.....-_-

Yes! He took 3 months to reduce from 79kg to currently 65kg! Now most probably his waistline is about the same as mine... 30cm for a man standing 6' tall is slander but for a 5' me is... ... ... stout!

mocking at me right....

你等着瞧!

Daddy vs Mummy

I hate this question, when people, especially those thought they can abuse their seniority, ask me : " Which girl you love most? The elder or younger? "

I think it's an mindless question as both are my girls, both I had conceived 36 weeks in my womb, both are my flesh...

anyway, I reply gently : " both are my love, they share the same weightage in my heart. "

but this people still dont buck, still insist... " no lah, I think you love the elder one... see, now you are bias, you gave the elder one but didnt give to the second one... ... ..."

I have no interest engaging in such groundless conversation, make myself scat... who's care you are senior... I already give you the respect you deserved!

My parents wont make such comparison. Though I am the youngest and only daughter in my family, above me I have 2 elder brothers. I always feel the equality in our parents' heart. My mum has always incalcate us to love, care and give in to one another. Dispite when young actually I find my eldest brother a bully but when grown up, we really care and love each other, no condition.

So, same here, I always tell my girls must love and give in to one other. I also dont ask my girls who they love most amongst us. I think this question not only put them in a difficult position but also confuse them about loving their love one. I think all our love one should stand an equal position in our heart. So, I always tell them mummy love Abe, mummy love Clara too. Daddy love Abe, Daddy love Clara too. Abe&Clara love mummy, Abe&Clara love daddy too... same apply to ma ma, gong gong and all the related.

( Eh... SS, pls dont feel that this is criticizing about your " love me... not " entry, I know you have not purpose... yours is just a casual talking. So dont think otherwise, k :p)

Though my girls are more bond to me, most probably I spend more time communicate with them as compare to their daddy. But luckily they are still affectionate with the daddy. In fact I am glad they are, at least will be the attaction for the daddy to stay at home often.

Anyway... then this 不自量力 daddy still wants to challenge me...

Last time, when he felt clarabelle resemblance him, so he likes clarabelle more and claimed that clarabelle responded to him more then to me and insisted us to take a test which I really dont wish to... ... ... embarrass him.

But he insisted... so, -_-

Test 1
He was carrying Clarabelle, so I opened up my arms and prompted clara to come over. Most willing, she leaned foward to my arms : )

Then was daddy's turn, he did the same, opened up his arm prompting clara back to his side, clara refused...
LOL!

Test 2 (Not intented)
We were preparing the bed to tuck the girls to sleep...

me: " Who wants to sleep with mummy? " and both girls came pushing to be slept beside me.
Then daddy: " Children dont squeeze, who wants to come over to daddy? " Nobody respond... Since Abella is nearer to me, I say " Clara, why dont you sleep with daddy? "

Clara: "No!"

Nowaday the daddy seem to like Abella more as he claim that Clara is very naughty but Abella is more loving and always look for him and ask about his whereabout.

Test 3 (Not intended)
When we came back from work together, the moment we enter the living rm, if still early, we can hear the girls came dashing out from the bedroom, they were screaming with joy when see both of us home. Then both of us open our arms to embrace them, both the girls squeeze into my arms and afterthat, of course, they went to embrace the daddy...

I think I dont want to spell it out and making comparison the love from our girls by the sequence of their approach but I really hope the daddy can realise the importance of bonding and make time to communicate and mind sharing with the girls. Not just bringing them out every weekend, it funtime though but not much of communication for bonding. He say he dont needs the bond, bond for what? Then cannot do other things! I dont know he say this is out of his chauvinism or he really think that way but seriously I can feel that I am gradually detaching from him since now we have less thoughts exchange... I am hoping the girls wont gradually feel the way I felt though it's inevitable.

Doting Daddy

Yes, this is a deflatable pool. Size 1.6m x 1.6m!

The girls are very fond of swimming after they went to a chalet where they were having fun in the pool the whole afternoon.

Since then, they are always bugging us to bring them swimming! Everyday "mummy, swimming huh? go swimming?"

So, me being a *SP mother, starts comtemplating to get a mini deflatable pool! Especially when realise the price not very steep actually, @ $19.90 for a dia 900mm size.

When I break my idea to the daddy, afraid he will pour cold water on me and frame me a SP mother again, to my surprise, the daddy agreed and even thought of getting more bigger one as he can dip in too!

So we start hunting around and found this at Toys 'R' us offering $39.95! Wow! for such a big one! The daddy even thought of getting a 2m X 2m one but I think those are too huge and the price too.

Though getting the pool is cheap but buying the accessory is not. This air pump cost us $79.90! More expensive than the main thing!
I am hesitating to get it or not as we have the manual one, but the daddy has a far sight. He anticipate he'll have a hard time, imagine how much leg power he needs to pump in 1.6m x 1.6m of air? By the time the pool inflate, he deflated already!




Luckily we bought this pump, pumping up the pool is just 10mins task! The girls are so excited! Even dry swimming in the pool! Haha!

So we are ready and get set for our coming bungalow chalet! Yeah!



We are at the chalet and having fun time! :)



Yes! Daddy pitch us a tent too!

*SP - abbr for " seng pai " in hokkien means spoilt brat, a mummy who pamper her child too much!

First Pressie from Daddy

The girls' daddy is not a present person, since their birth he has not get any present for them out of his own accord but yesterday he bought them this Mr. Sketch from a talk he had attended and they are really very smellful..

This box of marker indeed bring joy to the girls. That night, the moment the daddy presented them the colourful box, immediately they requested to open it. Well, what are we waiting for? I got them A4 papers and they started doodling on it... very soon the papers were filled with red (cherry smell), yellow (lemon smell) and orange (orange smell)... then the coffee table also... their hands... -_-

I think I better stop this activity before the mess extended to the wall and sofa and... Im just too tire to see the mess after a hard day... better leave it for weekend. Luckily the stain didnt dry fast and can be removed... Clarabelle refused to stop initially but after I agree to let her hold onto the box.

So I ask the hubby why did he buy this box of marker?

hubby: Very special mah, every colour has a symbolic scent so they will learn the smell of the fruits too :)

Though I am very sceptical how nontoxic this box of scented marker has claimed to be, nevertheless I really appreciate the daddy thought :)

Total Misconception ? ? !

This morning hubby was telling me, cant remember what thing's originality and it strike me asking him who invented vulgar language and...

hubby: Huh? What's make you think that those are vulgarity? You have a total misconception! Just like many people think that nudity is dirty... is a total misconception too and .... @%*# and.... %*&#....

=..= Please pardon me... this is my hubby... he and his askew logic...

Today is Father's Day!

Yesterday is then the actual Father's Day! We had woke up but the daddy was still sleeping, We shall not disturb the daddy, not untill we finish our father's day project! It not a difficult one, the girls love to draw, just drawing paper and crayon and Yeah, done! Quick present the drawing to daddy!

I had drawn a bee and a flower. A bee cos daddy is like a bee, always so hardworking and busy. Hopefully the bee can paused longer when extracting the nectar to enjoy the flower and appreciate his surronding... :)

Clarabelle requested me to include a bird in her picture... guess this girl know daddy love freedom... HaHaHa

and they girls did the final touch by doodle on it !

Happy Father's Day!

I thought Father's Day is on the 2nd week of month june ??? but no, the actual day is 18 June, this sunday !!! Anyway the girls had a mini celebration with their daddy yesterday. Nothing elaborate, just a cake cutting session but to them, it was fun, cos they love singing the "happy birthday song". So 1,2,3... *clap hand* happy birthday to you... happi birthday to you... happi birthday you... happi birthday to you! Y-eah ! ! ! *clapping* and *hoo-hoo-hoo* blew off the candles.... ^_^"
and of course mommy didnt forget to prepare pressie for daddy... a bottle of nice perfume, DKNY delicious...

Since Father's Day is not over yet, maybe I will do something... afterall daddy should deserve this compliment, for his hard work and contributions to the family in many form at his way :)

This powerpoint slide was made by me last year, onbehalf for the girls, for their daddy...

Hopfully I can think of something different this year...

Fun Time with Daddy

This is fun! The children definately looking forward to have fun with Daddy again.